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i wish i knew ALL this growing up too. and i still don’t know half of it sometimes!!!! but it has been THE greatest gift to get to grow up and learn with people like you in my life!! reckoning with growing up too quickly and all out of order and still learning now to find joy and love for ourselves even if sometimes it feels like it’s too late. thank you for sharing your heart and your words and care and for being you — never stop being you i love you from marina to frost amphitheater and back and back again 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

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oh grace, my substack career is over once u start publishing the drafts even when you write comments theyre bangers

❤️

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aadil your substack too tweetable. your swag too different. your loving circle of friends too bad. they'll kill you.

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lmfao i actually laughed ty eesha

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woah we've never met and but across time and continents we've had the exact same misbeliefs and the exact same revelations??

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good feeling innit

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whoa they should teach this to all the 16yo's so they can grow up wise and strong

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y'know i been petitioning the canadian govt they just do not listen :/

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mandatory aadil lessons before u graduate high school

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high school me wouldn't even have listened to me, probably futile but it makes for a nice blog post for all the 16 year olds trapped in the bodies of people in their 20s

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Love the capitalization, it’s artful

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oK thEn

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<3

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8>

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"I wish I knew that someday I’d like myself a lot. And anyone who didn’t wasn’t evil, they just were just not my person."

I think maturing is realizing that not everyone has to like you, and you don't need to like everyone. That disliking someone doesn't mean you have to attribute a negative quality to them nor do you need to prove to others that you're a good person. This is so well written thank you <3

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this is exactly what I meant, thank you for reading and interpreting

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QUUENS BACK

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pov ur back

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miss you :'(

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I wish I had a seminar class with Professor Aadil “Figuring Out Life 101”, class would be packed every semester

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lmfao 10 year goal

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banger. tons of good stuff in this one <3

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tysm billy glad u enjoyed :D

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“That anyone who makes you feel bad for trying new things is someone to be pitied, because they feel the need to bring both of you down to stay on the same level instead of rising up alongside you.”

🥰🥰🥰🥰

I think a pre-requisite to the positive kind of uplifting interactions (of inspiration, encouraging trying new things, etc) is not needing to prove yourself. People who tear others down for simply trying struggle with proving themselves. I see it within myself too. We all have voices that take up too much space and prevent us from beginning again and trying again and iterating

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what's guided me a lot recently is having zero expectation, zero plans, just moving targets as goals, no more 3-3-3 long term outlooks

just purely FAFO and backprop into the things I really like doing

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I loooveddd this, esp the quote I restacked

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really seriously glad you enjoyed this ty for reading

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